Thursday, June 28, 2012

A Little Bit Saint...A Little Bit Satan (her words, not mine)


This kid always amazes me. She has such a desire to be good that it about kills her. Just the other day, we got into a big argument over what she was wearing for the day. She has a couple of skirts that my mother bought for her that I feel are too short and I refuse to let her wear them, yet she repeatedly comes up stairs with them on. After she finally selected something that was appropriate, she comes storming into the bathroom half screaming/half crying that she wished she "didn't have a part of Satan in her!" because she had that desire to always wear immodest clothes. Poor kid, she is only 7!

I quickly explained that having temptations wasn't wrong, and that it is what we do with those temptations that really matters. I told her that she had chosen the right because she went  and changed into something that was more appropriate.

And then there was the incident last night:

She lost one of her teeth in the morning and bad been toting it around in that tiny plastic bag all day.  I kept telling her to go put it  under her pillow before she lost it, because she has lost one once before. But of course she didn't listen and right before bed she realized that it was no longer in the bag. She freaked out and was crying hysterically and trying to get the whole family in on finding it. She left the room and after feeling sorry for her I began to look for it and quickly found it. So when she came back I told her that she owed me the money that the toothfairy was going to give her (only joking of course), but she quickly responded that she had been outside on her knees praying for Heavenly Father to help her and that was why I found it. I was shocked, and stunned, and proud all at the same time.

I don't think she has a part of Satan in her at all. .

Wednesday, June 20, 2012

Top 10

 O.k. so I'm stealing this idea from my sister in law, so that I can catch up here on this blog. Yikes! It's been a long time and after my mother tells me how much she enjoys it, I feel bad not doing it...so here you go.

OUR TOP 10 from the last 3 months!



#1: Gabriela's 7th Birthday
She was super excited about it, but we knew we weren't going any friend parties, so she got a bunch of new clothes instead. I had fun making this pretty little cake for her and the best part was going to see the U.S. premier of ZORRO the musical. It was awesome and she was shocked when some of the cast picked her up and wished her a happy birthday after the show!
 #2: Julianne's 4th Birthday
This cake was a since to make and everybody just loved it. Her birthday happened to be on the same day we were taking the youth at church ice skating, so I brought the kids along and Julianne thought all the teens had come to her birthday party and to go ice skating with her. One of the girls even brought her a gift. I work with such sweet girls! And kids were super excited about skating and had a blast.  Sophia was really determined to skate on her own after seeing a girl smaller than she, zooming around the rink.



 #3: Easter
My mom came in for a week and she happened to be here on Easter weekend. We had a good time together and she kept me from having an emotional meltdown after cutting my hair. She spoiled us all while she was here.

 #4: Cousins came into town
This is always a time my kids look forward to every year. They spent every minute they could with the Miller girls and were so sad to see them leave. Miguel ran a half marathon with his sisters (forgot that picture), and the kids had fun at Shelley's family farm.



 #5: Cinco de Mayo
Any one that knows our family, knows that this is one of our favorite holidays. We got everyone all dressed up and we had a family party, which was new this year. We also did a murder mystery game with all the inlaws and that was f..u..n..n..y!!! Miguel gets the academy award for sure, for getting into his character of Don Juan Diablo.





 #6: Provo Temple Groundbreaking
On Saturday morning at like 8:00am. Miguel mentioned that he had tickets to the groundbreaking and that you had to be seated at 8:30am. He was going to work, and I immediately hopped on the phone and called all my girl friends to see if anyone would answer me at that time in the morning. Of course they didn't, so I snatched Gabriela up and out of bed and can you believe we got dressed and made it there on time! It was a great experience for both of us.



 #7: Max's 1st Birthday
I can't believe my little buddy is one. He is the sweetest thing know to man and we were all excited to celebrate this milestone with him. The girls and I made him this choo-choo train cake and they got to decorate all the little cars, but you can tell by the pictures, that we just wasn't that into it. He was happy to get down and play with his new toys. Love, love, love that baby.
 #8: Joining a Mexican Folk Dance Team
This has been a huge blessing to our family so far. It fits into what we want for our kids so perfectly. We are all practicing our spanish, meeting new people, learning to dance, and perform. It's awesome and I can't say enough good things about it. We've already had three performances!

 #9: Max is Growing like a weed
This kid is on the move and his personality is coming out all over the place. He loves to wander the house with a sock in his mouth, like a little puppy dog. He also loves paper...especially toilet paper. We have to keep the bathrooms shut at all times because he goes straight for the toilet and toilet paper. He's walking now and is so cute toddling around the house.

 #10: BYU Family Art Festival
We probably spent 5 hours at BYU that day! The girls got to act out parts for the professional storyteller, make postcards, dance, and explore Islamic art and culture. They especially loved the henna tatoos that we waited over an hour to get in the hot sun. I'm not sure Papi was so thrilled about it when we got home.


 + and added bonus: Father's Day
Here's to the best dad we know!

Monday, March 12, 2012

Refreshed and Ready to Go

So, my Power of Moms Workshop went so well this weekend. I was really happy with it. I thought my fellow friends and presenters did an amazing job and I was able to meet some amazing women, who were bright and funny, and deep down, some really great moms. A few things I came away with were that I really am my family's greatest asset, so it is ok to take care of myself without feeling guilty about it. I need to stop comparing against the "other mothers" out there and realize we are all on our own journeys to become better versions of ourselves, each at their own pace. That is a beautiful thing! I also made a commitment to stop saying "I'm sorry" for my not being perfect. You know what I mean. The "I'm sorry my house is a mess," "I'm sorry I'm dressed like this," "I'm sorry, my kids look like rugrats today," "I'm sorry it's not perfect." Nope, you won't here that out of my mouth anymore (crossing my fingers). I'm giving it up. The perfectionism I mean. I'll still try my very best, but I don't have to apologize to anyone for not being perfect. And one more thing, I learned is that if we set tiny achievable goals each week, then we are bound to grow into remarkable women.

So to prove that this stuff works, here are a few examples were I've already started to implement this stuff into my life.

This morning, I exercised while my preschoolers played and my baby sat in the floor and watched me dance around the room to my Zumba video while the sun was shining through the window. That felt good.

I sat down and set some small goals for this week in the Bloom game that's offered on the POM website.

Yesterday in church as I looked around the congregation, I thought about all those moms sitting in the different pews and for once wasn't sizing myself up against them. I sat and looked at each one as an individual and tried to notice all the good things they do. It felt good and I loved them.

And I'm going to multi-task and listen to some inspirational talks today while I'm cleaning my kitchen.

So how about that! You see, there are some powerful benefits to these workshops. If you are interested in hosting a workshop in your area, let me know and maybe we can work something out. It really is an amazing thing.

Thursday, March 8, 2012

Love More

I love this child with all my heart. Everyday she walks out that door to go to school, I feel like she's walking away with my heart. Her struggles feel like mine. And I ache to help her be the kind of woman I know she has the potential of becoming. She has so many strengths. So many talents. But right now we are struggling tremendously. Our personalities are very similar, and then again, very different. She is very independent and strong willed. If she detects you pushing her in the slightest, she will push back with all her might and dig her heels in. Since I'm the one home all the time, she is in constant conflict with me over getting ready for school, doing her homework, practicing the piano, being nice to her siblings, and so on and so forth. The more I tell her to hurry along, the slower she gets, and the meaner her looks get as she walks by me. I feel like I've tried so very hard to be nice. I've read countless material about how to motivate her. I've made charts and come up with rewards that SHE picked and yet we are still back to ground zero. So last week, I resorted to prayer. I prayed like crazy, even in the shower that she would have the desire to be a good kid. I even talked to the teacher about ways to help her. But in the end, the only thing I keep going back to is to LOVE MORE!

I'm going to love that child into obedience. I'm going to love her regardless of how she performs at school. I'm going to leave nice notes in her lunch box. I'm going to remind her how much I love her as she jumps out of the car to go to school. I'm going to make her bed while she's at school to serve her. I'm going to make her favorite dinners. I'm going to love that child until she comes around. I can't change her, or make her like me, but I can soften her heart. I can show her that regardless of what she does, I'm going to love her because of who she is and what she can become.

Wednesday, February 29, 2012

I'm presenting a POWER OF MOMS workshop on Taking Care of the "ME" Inside the Mom!


Ready to become the mom you really want to be?

Come enjoy laughter, learning and light refreshments at an unforgettable gathering that just might change your life in some very important ways.

What:

A fabulous, interactive Power of Moms workshop that will help you learn how to effectively develop and take care of that little “me” inside the mom. Just like everyone else in the family, moms need nurturing and support as they strive to meet their personal goals and become all that they’re meant to be. At this workshop, we’ll help you assess how you’re doing mentally, emotionally, physically, socially and spiritually, help you learn to say “yes” and “no” to the right things, and help you more fully accept yourself as you celebrate your own unique talents and abilities.

Next Saturday, March 10th, from 9:00-12:00 at Meradith Christensen's home!
Go here to register. And remember that you get $20 worth of POM online resourses!

Monday, February 13, 2012

I'm OBSESSED!!!

So I'm obsessed with ZUMBA! Seriously. I love those workouts more than anything else in my life right now. And boy do I need them. I don't feel like I'm working out. I feel like I'm dancing, and after my lesson in church last week about what really brings us joy, well, this is it. I just got the latest DVD set, and I've been dancing away in my basement every night since. It makes me feel oh so good. And one of the perks is my husband, my sweet amor, will do them with me. We dance and flirt and rekindle our romance while we shake our tail feathers, just like we did when we first met. It's awesome! I know I probably look like a fool on the outside, but on the inside I feel like this chica! And maybe if I keep doing it, my body will magically look like that. Tummy tuck and all. So if you're up for a party, here's your invite. Give me a ring and come join my party!

Friday, February 3, 2012

Snapshot of our lives

Inspired by another bloggers post, I would like to do a "snapshot" of the life of the Ruizes right now. You know, what it's like in our house right now, at this moment in our lives, to look back and remember in years to come.

There is always, always, a pile of dishes in the sink that needs washing in the morning. With six of us in the house, that sink seems to fill as fast as I can wash and empty it. We still don't have a dishwasher, so I spend a lot of time at the sink. The girls rotate by month who's job it is to help put them away.

Our kitchen table is always covered with papers. That table is the hub of the house. We eat, do homework, do art, play games, and everything else under the sun there. It's a constant struggle to keep it cleared. And it's beat to heck. We are down to three matching chairs, and the other three are all random chairs from the house. I'm guilty as the rest. We did a modge podge art project and I smeared it all over the table not knowing it wouldn't come off. We are just waiting for the kids to grow up a bit before replacing it. It's been well loved and used.

I watch a little girl every morning and then feed her lunch and take her to kindergarten. I visit teach her mom, and it's my way of helping someone out. Plus Sophia likes having someone around to play with.

Sophia is really starting to be able to read, thanks to preschool. She loves to have her back scratched and always asks for it. She has a cute little short haircut, but it is always sticking up everywhere and she hates when it is "all staggity (static)." She says the best prayers and is really thoughtful. She prays to be more modesty, honesty, more obedient to her parents, to be kind to her sisters, and all sorts of other lovely things. I've thought about sneaking a tape recorder in one night, just so I capture them. Is that appropriate? She is also racing that scooter from her birthday all over the house. She will do circles around the kitchen table and I just know she's going to catch my toes one day.

Julianne loves her hair. She likes to have curlies (when I use the curling iron to curl the ends). She likes playing beauty shop and fixes all of the dolls' hair. She can't handle attention and will pull away if you try to hug her or if you smile at her she will scowl at you. She is still super loud and I'm always trying to tell her to use a quieter voice, especially when Max is asleep. She's a major movie addict. But despite being a typical 3 year old, she is also very generous and is always willing to share what she has with her sisters. She's not greedy, like the other two tend to be. She is also really good at playing by herself if she has to. She's got a pretty good imagination. She loves to dress up in dance clothes and is really wanting to go to dance class. She does about four outfit changes a day.

Gabriela is now getting rides to school in the morning. Grandpa came to her defense and didn't like seeing her out walking in the morning. She is still struggling with having a bad attitude about homework and piano. Although I think piano is getting better. She gets super upset when she gets caught doing something naughty, like being dishonest, and will run to her room screaming that she'll never be a good girl. So needless to say, I give a lot of pep talks around here. She's loving the school play. She really likes to feel special and doesn't want to be lumped into a group. She does a lot better when she's treated like a big girl.

Max, well, he can be a pill. But he's cutting his two bottom teeth and is constantly crying if you're not holding him. He got his first real haircut last week and he's super cute, but I about died because once she started with the clippers on the sides, I thought he was going to be bald. Sophia was crying because Max was screaming the whole time and she thought we were hurting him. She has a soft heart for her brother. He also loves to pull his socks off and will do anything to get them off. He still can't roll over and he's a bit of a prince. We are trying to be better about laying him on his belly to play.

We eat sandwiches just about everyday for lunch. And we are still drinking a lot of green smoothies.

We eat mostly organic food, or at least all natural. We only drink water, and occasionally milk.

Saturdays we usually pick up pizza from Papa Murphey's.

Miguel just got released from being Elder's Quorum President. It's a little bittersweet for him. But I think he's excited for his new calling, but I can't tell you yet, because he hasn't been sustained in church. But I think he'll do great at it.

Young Women's is great. I'm really getting to know the girls and I love the leaders I work with. It's a lot of work, but it's fun work.

Miguel is gone all the time with work. I do dinner most nights by myself, which is so hard, because that is Max's most fussiest time, and the kids are begging for food, and there is homework to be done and piano to be practiced, and baths that need to be taken, and I get really overwhelmed. But that is the life of a spouse of a real estate agent. I've tried to develop a thick skin.

I'm usually always home. The thought of getting out in the cold with the baby is not that appealing to me and I can't leave for more than two hours before I have to either pick somebody up or drop somebody off to preschool or school.

My allergies are out of control, but I've go the asthma controlled. I'm constantly fatigued, which makes me frustrated.

I'm super happy that I have great friends who help me when I'm in need, whether it be a listening ear, watching my kids so I can run errands, or inviting me to do things. I really appreciate them.

We still are doing a baby sitting swap on Friday nights with two other families. But I'm wondering if my girls are wearing out. Gabriela, I know, is over it and doesn't want to go play "with boys." So I don't know how much longer it will last.

My girls color all the time. We have coloring papers from one end of the house to the other. They draw on everything.

So there you have it. That's us in a nutshell. If I think of more, I'm sure I'll add it in later.