Wednesday, February 29, 2012

I'm presenting a POWER OF MOMS workshop on Taking Care of the "ME" Inside the Mom!


Ready to become the mom you really want to be?

Come enjoy laughter, learning and light refreshments at an unforgettable gathering that just might change your life in some very important ways.

What:

A fabulous, interactive Power of Moms workshop that will help you learn how to effectively develop and take care of that little “me” inside the mom. Just like everyone else in the family, moms need nurturing and support as they strive to meet their personal goals and become all that they’re meant to be. At this workshop, we’ll help you assess how you’re doing mentally, emotionally, physically, socially and spiritually, help you learn to say “yes” and “no” to the right things, and help you more fully accept yourself as you celebrate your own unique talents and abilities.

Next Saturday, March 10th, from 9:00-12:00 at Meradith Christensen's home!
Go here to register. And remember that you get $20 worth of POM online resourses!

Monday, February 13, 2012

I'm OBSESSED!!!

So I'm obsessed with ZUMBA! Seriously. I love those workouts more than anything else in my life right now. And boy do I need them. I don't feel like I'm working out. I feel like I'm dancing, and after my lesson in church last week about what really brings us joy, well, this is it. I just got the latest DVD set, and I've been dancing away in my basement every night since. It makes me feel oh so good. And one of the perks is my husband, my sweet amor, will do them with me. We dance and flirt and rekindle our romance while we shake our tail feathers, just like we did when we first met. It's awesome! I know I probably look like a fool on the outside, but on the inside I feel like this chica! And maybe if I keep doing it, my body will magically look like that. Tummy tuck and all. So if you're up for a party, here's your invite. Give me a ring and come join my party!

Friday, February 3, 2012

Snapshot of our lives

Inspired by another bloggers post, I would like to do a "snapshot" of the life of the Ruizes right now. You know, what it's like in our house right now, at this moment in our lives, to look back and remember in years to come.

There is always, always, a pile of dishes in the sink that needs washing in the morning. With six of us in the house, that sink seems to fill as fast as I can wash and empty it. We still don't have a dishwasher, so I spend a lot of time at the sink. The girls rotate by month who's job it is to help put them away.

Our kitchen table is always covered with papers. That table is the hub of the house. We eat, do homework, do art, play games, and everything else under the sun there. It's a constant struggle to keep it cleared. And it's beat to heck. We are down to three matching chairs, and the other three are all random chairs from the house. I'm guilty as the rest. We did a modge podge art project and I smeared it all over the table not knowing it wouldn't come off. We are just waiting for the kids to grow up a bit before replacing it. It's been well loved and used.

I watch a little girl every morning and then feed her lunch and take her to kindergarten. I visit teach her mom, and it's my way of helping someone out. Plus Sophia likes having someone around to play with.

Sophia is really starting to be able to read, thanks to preschool. She loves to have her back scratched and always asks for it. She has a cute little short haircut, but it is always sticking up everywhere and she hates when it is "all staggity (static)." She says the best prayers and is really thoughtful. She prays to be more modesty, honesty, more obedient to her parents, to be kind to her sisters, and all sorts of other lovely things. I've thought about sneaking a tape recorder in one night, just so I capture them. Is that appropriate? She is also racing that scooter from her birthday all over the house. She will do circles around the kitchen table and I just know she's going to catch my toes one day.

Julianne loves her hair. She likes to have curlies (when I use the curling iron to curl the ends). She likes playing beauty shop and fixes all of the dolls' hair. She can't handle attention and will pull away if you try to hug her or if you smile at her she will scowl at you. She is still super loud and I'm always trying to tell her to use a quieter voice, especially when Max is asleep. She's a major movie addict. But despite being a typical 3 year old, she is also very generous and is always willing to share what she has with her sisters. She's not greedy, like the other two tend to be. She is also really good at playing by herself if she has to. She's got a pretty good imagination. She loves to dress up in dance clothes and is really wanting to go to dance class. She does about four outfit changes a day.

Gabriela is now getting rides to school in the morning. Grandpa came to her defense and didn't like seeing her out walking in the morning. She is still struggling with having a bad attitude about homework and piano. Although I think piano is getting better. She gets super upset when she gets caught doing something naughty, like being dishonest, and will run to her room screaming that she'll never be a good girl. So needless to say, I give a lot of pep talks around here. She's loving the school play. She really likes to feel special and doesn't want to be lumped into a group. She does a lot better when she's treated like a big girl.

Max, well, he can be a pill. But he's cutting his two bottom teeth and is constantly crying if you're not holding him. He got his first real haircut last week and he's super cute, but I about died because once she started with the clippers on the sides, I thought he was going to be bald. Sophia was crying because Max was screaming the whole time and she thought we were hurting him. She has a soft heart for her brother. He also loves to pull his socks off and will do anything to get them off. He still can't roll over and he's a bit of a prince. We are trying to be better about laying him on his belly to play.

We eat sandwiches just about everyday for lunch. And we are still drinking a lot of green smoothies.

We eat mostly organic food, or at least all natural. We only drink water, and occasionally milk.

Saturdays we usually pick up pizza from Papa Murphey's.

Miguel just got released from being Elder's Quorum President. It's a little bittersweet for him. But I think he's excited for his new calling, but I can't tell you yet, because he hasn't been sustained in church. But I think he'll do great at it.

Young Women's is great. I'm really getting to know the girls and I love the leaders I work with. It's a lot of work, but it's fun work.

Miguel is gone all the time with work. I do dinner most nights by myself, which is so hard, because that is Max's most fussiest time, and the kids are begging for food, and there is homework to be done and piano to be practiced, and baths that need to be taken, and I get really overwhelmed. But that is the life of a spouse of a real estate agent. I've tried to develop a thick skin.

I'm usually always home. The thought of getting out in the cold with the baby is not that appealing to me and I can't leave for more than two hours before I have to either pick somebody up or drop somebody off to preschool or school.

My allergies are out of control, but I've go the asthma controlled. I'm constantly fatigued, which makes me frustrated.

I'm super happy that I have great friends who help me when I'm in need, whether it be a listening ear, watching my kids so I can run errands, or inviting me to do things. I really appreciate them.

We still are doing a baby sitting swap on Friday nights with two other families. But I'm wondering if my girls are wearing out. Gabriela, I know, is over it and doesn't want to go play "with boys." So I don't know how much longer it will last.

My girls color all the time. We have coloring papers from one end of the house to the other. They draw on everything.

So there you have it. That's us in a nutshell. If I think of more, I'm sure I'll add it in later.

Wednesday, February 1, 2012

Tennis Shoe Afterthoughts

So I've had a little time to think since writing this post yesterday and I've discussed it with a several people since then as well, most coming from my new Learning Circle. We talked about acceptance last night. Acceptance with ourselves, with motherhood, of others. It was great, and I feel like I bore my whole soul on a first date. Not sure how I feel about that in retrospect, but let's just "accept" that that's who I am. I'm a talker.

So here are my afterthoughts. I worry way to much about these kinds of things and what other people think. I think I'm highly aware of my flaws and imperfections right now in my life and I project those flaws onto other people. I assume everyone else in the world thinks the same thing about me as I do. I think everyone else is comparing me to all these cute single women on dates in line at Zupa's on Friday night. I think everyone looks at my not very tight abs and compares me to the other first time mom, whose belly just magically goes back after having that baby. It's silly really. I always get this way, at about this time, after having a baby. Last time it prompted me to do the Mrs. Utah pageant, to help myself gain some confidence, to squeeze out some me time, and to get myself back in order, and you know what...it worked. I just need to get my confidence back.

I'm not sure what I'll do next, but at least I can see this phase for what it is. Postpartum, baby slave, desperately needing some me time, mommy craziness. So don't worry folks, I'll snap out of it, and I've got some good goals to help get me there.