Thursday, April 3, 2008
Feeling a Little Overwhelmed!
Wow, who knew being a mother of three children under the age of 3 would be so exhausting. Actually, I did. Man, reality is hitting me in the head big time. The baby is great and is pretty easy to handle. It's my other two munchkins that are killing me. They are both great with the baby and love her, thank goodness, but they don't give you a second to yourself. Trying to heal from the c-section is no piece of cake either and with all the demands of raising three children, keeping a house clean, cooking, nursing a baby, and being up at all hours of the night, it should be against the law to send me home after only 3 days in the hospital. There should be a postpartum resort or something for mom's who need time to heal and take care of themselves and the new little one. For instance this evening I was nursing the baby, had Gabriela putting pretend makeup on me, and Sophia jumping on me trying to drink from my water cup...all the while hoping I don't catch a knee or foot in the incision. Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't trade any of them for world, but this is tough stuff. I just pray for a speedy recovery so I can deal with this challenge. If any of you have words of advice, I would love to hear it! Sorry if this seems pessamistic, but hey, at least it's the truth.
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WOW! That does sound like a lot of work. I have no advice, I am nervous enough having our second. And Cooper is almost 4. I admire you for what you are doing, I think you are just great. If there is anything I can do, just holler (I'm not sure how much help I can be considering I feel like I am going into labor every day) and I will do what I can!!!
Lindsay, Don't you feel better already, just posting on your blog? I suggest blogging whenever you get too worn out. It's definitely my little escape when I want to get away from what I need to do. I'm glad you posted, I check your blog a lot b/c I want to see what's going on. I think you're a great mother, and it's a good thing you have a sense of humor. These little ones can sure be a handful. Is it horrible of me to something think that I don't even like my kids? I know, I should never even write that, but it's true. In the evenings when Blake is bouncing off the walls, I just want to run away. :)
Just know you're not alone. But you just have a lot bigger obstacle to get over with that c-section. Once you're feeling better, you'll just do what you have to and it won't be as hard.
See you at the Park in an hour, I'm so glad you called!
Oh, Lindsay, I know how you feel. I'm freaking out about the prospect of having four. Keep in mind that you are in the hardest stage right now, and once you recover from the surgery and get past the constant feedings, life will get much, much easier.
Number three did some great things for me though. All of the chaos made me simplify my routines. Getting out the door was taking me 45 minutes, so I threw out the diaper bag and stuck a diaper and wet wipes in my purse and in my car. That's all I carry around with me, and if my kids get hungry or thirsty while we're out, they either wait until we get home, or I stop and buy something if we get really desperate.
I also had to create some physical barriers around the house. Lauren inevitably found her way into the toilet when I was nursing, so I started locking doors around the house if I knew it was a trouble spot. And I had to just let some things go too--like kids getting their own snacks or pulling books off the bookshelf (other favorite pasttimes during nursing). The house was messy almost all day long and I only cleaned up at nap time and right before Brandon got home.
One last thought--my mom taught me the value of little teaching moments with the older ones that help them to be more independent. While she was helping out after Keira was born, I watched her teach Eliza and Lauren how to get their shoes on by themselves or get a diaper for mom. Little things like that make a big difference so that you don't have to do EVERYTHNING for EVERYONE. I was amazed at what my girls could do, and I realized that I had probably been babying them a little too much. They'll become a lot more independent through this transition, and it will make your life much easier.
Good luck!! I'm sure you'll find what works for you. Just don't stress too much about the house or meals. Take it easy and get your strength back, and do whatever it takes to keep you sane for now. :)
Lindsay,
I hope that it is better today. I had to chuckle a little but just out of pure sympathy....
I like the ideas that were posted.
You are just a great mother, your girls are going to be so well rounded and beautiful!
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